Well, I've been pretty consistent about doing an entry on Mondays, so here it goes......

My Weekend

Was great. Didn't really accomplish too much around the house, but did manage to get a grocery shopping trip in. Woo-hoo. Kind of a low key weekend. Had a fantastic thunderstorm on Saturday night. I'm just amazed by the storms here. Did my phone calls to family on Sunday, which is just stressful, which it shouldn't be! Which leads me to my next thought/rant.....

Critical Family Members

I don't understand, nor will I ever understand, why certain members of my family feel the need to judge the way John and I live our lives. Why does the topic of whether or not John is going to "find a job" even have to come up? Why do people think that putting the kids in daycare so John can "provide for his family" is even an option? Ummm, let's see, yes, that makes sense, pay someone else to raise my children so that John can go and work. Oh yeah! That's the ticket! Grrrrrr......and then to use the pretense of "concern" for my "well-being" really gets me. Another good one is "we just don't understand what John does all day." Look, just because we don't have maid service two times a week and housekeeping is not one of John's forte (which he will freely admit, and, oh by the way, he's getting better at!), don't think that you can be the judge as to whether or not John is "pulling his weight." I know for a fact, that John has to put up with a lot of comments about him being a stay-at-home dad, but I will tell you, I wouldn't have our situation any other way. He's a great father to the kids and does take care of the household and me. Dinner is prepared almost every night for me, laundry is done (much easier now with the indoor laundry!), the kids are happy (which should be the #1 concern!), and Sebastian's homework is done (and his father is THERE to help him). Sure, there are things I need to do when I get home, but remember people, this is a PARTNERSHIP.

My point being, to my family (and some close friends) is that, look, John and I have been together for 16 years. He makes me happy. We have 3 very happy, healthy children, that get to live with both their parents. I guess if you have to find something to ding John and I with, I guess that is your perogative. But, before you start judging my life, and my choices, take a look at yourself. Would it really be better for my children (and me, really) for both John and I to be working 40-60 hours a week? What really would that solve? Okay, before I get further into trouble, I'll move onto the next issue.....

Pervasive Development Disorder

For those of you who have read John's post about Sebastian, I wanted to post a couple of links regarding PDD.

Good "general" definition of PDD

Another informative definition

Just in case you want more information about it. It's really just a throw-all diagnosis, which can have many subcategories. Do I think Sebastian is autistic or has some form of autism? Maybe. It's hard to tell, without getting any formal diagnosis. He definitely has his own unique way of seeing the world. We are just taking one step at a time. That's all we can do! If it is a form of autisim, we will cross that bridge when we come to it. Just like everything else in our lives we will handle it TOGETHER!

Later!